For many single lesbian women meeting a potential partner is hard
enough, but when you have a child the process can be even more
difficult. When do you bring up the fact that you are a single mom? Do
you allow your child to meet your potential new girlfriend? Here are
five great online dating tips for lesbian moms.
#1 - Be Open and Honest
Being
open and honest on your online dating profile is probably the most
important aspect when using an online dating site. Allowing your
potential matches to see you as you really are is important. As a single
mom, this becomes even more critical. Do not hide the fact that you
have a child, but rather be upfront about it. This is not to be taken as
though being a mother is a negative aspect to who you are. Some women
have a problem dating those with children, while others embrace it. If
the relationship ends up getting serious, the fact that you are a parent
will come out at some point. Save yourself (and potential partners) the
heartache and hassle of being honest from the beginning.
#2 - Don't Focus All Your Time and Energy
While
utilizing the internet to meet lesbians can be exciting and fun, it is
important not to focus all your time and energy into browsing profiles
on the web. Remember to take time out to spend with your children. After
all, they only stay little for so long. Try to keep a balance between
searching for your new love and having fun with the "littlest" loves of
your life -- your kids.
#3 - Take Extra Precautions
If
you have been around online websites for long, you probably already
know to take precautions when meeting someone new for the first time.
However, it is extra important for single moms to remember this as well.
Keep personal information (such as the name of your child's school,
your address, etc.) private until you have had a chance to get to know
the other person. In addition, always make sure your first meetings are
in public places and that friends or relatives know where you are. While
we like to believe that the person on the other end of the keyboard is
trustworthy, it is still important to stay safe.
#4 - Are They a Good Role Model?
First
and foremost, it is important to ask yourself if the woman you are
considering as a possible partner is a good role model for your
children. After all, if things work out they will be interacting on a
regular basis. If you cannot answer this question as honest as possible
without making excuses or feeling as though they are truly not, then it
is possible that you have not met the right love interest yet. Remember,
your children are a major part of your life and should be a major
considering when you are making choices.
#5 - Wait Until the Time is Right
There
is no hard rule on how fast you have to introduce a potential
girlfriend to your children. In fact, it is usually best to wait until
you know for sure that this woman will be in your life for a good period
of time. Another good indication is that you feel that your children
will gain insight, perspective, encouragement, and/or other knowledge by
interacting with her. After all, it is the job of a mother to help
raise their children by allowing them memories and experiences with
others in order to gain worldly insight. If meeting your new significant
other will allow them a positive role model in their lives -- with or
without the status of your relationship -- feel free to introduce them.
