If you're trying to meet women, being rejected is always a
possibility. Whether the girl is nice or cruel about it is irrelevant.
Nothing will change the fact that you have been rejected, and most men
would be so disheartened enough that they will simply give up and go
home. However, being disheartened is simply the product of a wounded
ego. It's not productive and engaging in self-pity will not help you
meet the girl of your dreams.
So
today, we will discuss several tips on how you can keep going even when
you get rejected by a girl you like. We will discuss why it's not the
worst thing in the entire world, and why indulging in self loathing can
actually sabotage your ability to attract other women. In other words,
dealing with rejection is largely a mental exercise. It's not about
changing your pick up line or having a better smile (although those are
also important). What's important is how you structure your mind to deal
with certain failures.
Having said that, the first thing that you
will have to understand is that not all women are the same. Even the
most well thought out relationship advice cannot help you if the type of
girls you talk to simply aren't that into you. Even under the best of
circumstances, there's always a big chance that the girl will not
respond favorably to your advances, either because of personal problems
or simply because of her own personality.
In this sense, meeting a
new girl is somewhat like gambling because nothing is certain and you
won't know how things turn out until they've run their course. Most
women won't actually slap your face or make a pithy remark about your
manhood (although that can happen in certain cases). Even if some women
are inclined to be cruel, many of them also do not want to make a scene.
What
most of them will actually do is pretend that they're not interested in
you, while others will simply try to stay closer to their friends.
These are subtle signs that they are not interested in your advances and
that you should try other prospects.
As long as you keep this in
mind, you'll be fine. Being ignored is not the worst thing in the world
and as long as you keep things in perspective, you'll be able to keep
going. Keep your ego in check and self-talk yourself to try a different
approach. Tell yourself anything you like, even if you don't find them
completely convincing, as long as they can help you deal with bad
situations. Self-talking yourself out of a bad situation is a
conditioned reflex.
The more you practice it, the easier it will become. Once you've mastered it however, you'll have an easier time meeting new girls.
For
example, tell yourself that you're just not in the right place, or tell
yourself that her friends are sabotaging your efforts. The goal of
these kinds of exercises is emotional. You are trying to protect your
ego. Later, when you're alone, you can examine the situation more
critically, but if you want to be successful with women then always
avoid self-loathing.
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